Alright everyone can just calm down.
Let me be clear and acknowledge that you and I both understand vitamin b-12 will not in any way make one pack on the pounds.
I guess we all didn’t received the same memo, because this was the very question asked by a young woman while I was at work the other day.
What had happened was…
I turned down aisle 6 to find a frazzled young woman scouring the shelves. Its not uncommon to find customers overwhelmed at our vast product selection and to be honest I still don’t know where everything is at.
I walked over and asked if I could help find something. She let out a sigh of relief at the prospect of help and wanted to know where the b-12 was. I guided her to that section and diligently described the difference between cyanocobalamin and methylcobalamin. (More on that here if y’all are interested)
But alas- after all that the deciding factor came down to a question of vanity?
“But will B-12 make me fat”?
People say that there are no stupid questions, but those people are wrong and in my mind I quickly placed this gal in a specific category.
I was ready to wrap up our interaction and move on to a task more rewarding like refilling the stapler, but she wanted to know more:
“What all is this good for? I need vitamins because I barely eat…sometimes I go a day or two and just forget to eat”.
I didn’t need to know…
Really I didn’t.
There was a pretty solid chance I’d never see her again and based on her opening line I might rather not know, but my inquisitive nature usually wins. Without hesitating for too long I looked her straight in the eyes and asked,
She seemed surprised at my curiosity.
“I’m just busy. I work two jobs and I have a kid, so I don’t have time, or I just forget sometimes.”
The plot thickens…shit.
My heart sank at the picture she quickly painted for me.
Two jobs? You have a kid? I’d be shocked if you’re even old enough to buy a beer??
I shook my head like I understood her life and then spouted off a list of b-12 benefits.
I did not understand though!
How could I? I’m in my thirties; have only one full time gig and I have zero children. I quite literally have no grounds on which to identify with her, but suddenly I had all the feels for how exhausted she must’ve been and saddened by the thought of her quality of life 10 years from now if she kept on this way.
You don’t need b-12…
You need to b-with-your-kid,
I didn’t have to…
Really I didn’t.
She’s probably heard it several times before, but maybe….Just maybe it’ll resonate coming from a stranger?
I accepted the role of ‘overbearing stranger’ and in my best mama bear tone I said,
“It sounds like your plate is pretty full and although vitamins and supplements are convenient they should never take the place of real whole food nutrition. If you don’t take care of yourself you might get to a place where you’re not well enough to take care of the little one. And he’s the one who really needs you to take care of you.”
The young woman stared at me silently with her mouth ever so slightly agape. I could see tears start to fill the bottom of her wide eyes before she blinked them back and threw her arms around me in a surrendering embrace. She thanked me for my concern as we hugged it out like two old friends upon a grand reunion. It was truly a hallelujah wake-up call for her and in that exact moment she vowed to make some serious lifestyle changes.
Can you believe that?!
Me neither. It’s not even close to how she actually responded.
Instead, her eyes were vacant as she nodded her head and forced out a polite half smile (or wince?). With about as much enthusiasm as you’d expect after taking unsolicited advice from a stranger she said, “I know…
…but do you have something for stretch marks? I’ve literally tried everything and they wont go away?”
Alright! Maybe I shouldn’t have expected it to go any other way?
That is the point though, right? To witness our good intentions have an immediate impact and positively change the course of someones life?
Noooope. While it may be rewarding, it is not the point and it’s also unlikely.
The important part is that we ‘plant a seed’ when possible.
Ok. I’ve conceded that at one time or another, someone has already said what I wanted to say, and most times better than I would have said it. I just didn’t think I’d ever quote the wholesome wisdom of one Mr. George Foreman (Yup, that grill guy), but here goes…
“Plant a seed of greatness in your children. Speak a word of encourgement to someone who needs to hear it. Inspire someone to be a better person. One day you’ll reap a harvest, and your world will become a better place to live”
You may think its not your place or that what you say will not make a difference. Nonsense! Are your intentions positive? Are you coming from a place of love? Then take every opportunity to plant a seed of greatness, a seed of encouragement, or a seed of inspiration!
Do it like it is your job.
It does not matter if they’re a friend, a family member, an acquaintance, or even a stranger.
It’s us…we matter.
And we all would benefit from a lot more gardening.
Shine on, friends. Xx